Monday, February 11, 2013

Random Thought 109 - Leaving Your Door Open

Life is full of uncertainties, even surprises and disappointments.  The moment we experience some unfavorable situation, sometimes, we tend to close our door.

In our lifetime, we may experience friends and loved ones, who in one time or another, left us.  If we are going to be objective, leaving is part of the course of our lives.  However, if someone left us because of some unresolve issues, then, it is a different thing.  We tend to feel bad about it.  

The moment someone left us and he is the one who caused us pain, our normal tendency is to close our door.  If the hurt is something unbearable, we oftentimes declare with certainty that everything is over with that person and no amount of pleading on his part could ever make us forgive him.  But time has its own way of dealing with our hurt and pain.

If I remember it correctly, there's a Chinese proverb that is similar to this one - Leave your door open for you will never know who's coming back.  That is, no matter how badly wounded we are and if we show that we still value our relationship with that person, the moment we leave our door open is short of saying that  everything will be forgiven and it is up to that person to make his move.  With this gesture, the burden is already off our shoulders and the moment our friend or loved one comes back, forgiveness and reconciliation need no words to patch up things.

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