Have you ever been in a position where the burden of someone is suddenly placed on your shoulders? If not, good for you. If it is your first time, you'll definitely experience a 360-degree turn of your world and you'll be in a great dilemma.
Emotional blackmail is a psychological manipulation directed by a person to someone who is closely related to him. The idea is to gain "hostage" of someone in an attempt to manipulate his behavior in favor of the one "threatening" him.
One particular stage of an emotional blackmail is causing anxiety and making the other party feel guilty. The idea of "blaming" someone and finding "fault" if the other party will not conform or agree is a punishment to the conscience. Usually, the person doing this act is experiencing being neglected, deserted, hopeless, alone, or desperate.
If this person could be our family member or a friend, I don't know for how long we can extend ourselves to be held hostage of his emotional blackmail. I cannot argue with buying some time because it can work in both ways - the person may gain enough strength in the days to come which could lead to his recovery or forever "cage" you in his control.
In the Philippine setting, there is still a form of resistance when we talk about psychologists/psychiatrists and people would normally say that they are not insane to seek help to these professionals. I guess, our orientation about psychologists/psychiatrists and the kind of help they can offer are restricted only to those who are brave enough to admit that they actually need some assistance.
Our actions are based on our judgments and preferences, thus, we cannot blame others for our inadequacies or misfortunes. We are the ones liable to ourselves and no one, nobody should be blamed in case we choose a particular dark path.
And if you are experiencing some troubles, admittance of your limitations and shortcomings could be the first step. The only person that can help you is yourself. Seek help before it is too late. And never drag down people whom you've "loved" all throughout this time. Be well.
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